Best man speech: a structure that works, with examples

By the speechwriters.ai editorial team · Last updated October 22, 2026

How to write a best man toast for an American wedding: a six-part structure, sample jokes that land, and how long to talk.

Where the best man toast fits

American weddings don't follow the strict British order. Usually the host welcomes guests, then the best man and maid of honor give toasts, often during dinner. You may also be asked to speak at the rehearsal dinner, which is the better place for longer stories.

The six parts

1. Open and introduce yourself. "Hi everyone, I'm Dan. I've known Chris since we were both terrible at Little League."
2. Thank the hosts. One line for whoever is hosting and for the couple for including you.
3. Two stories about the groom. One funny, one that shows character. Specific beats general every time.
4. The couple. How they met, and the moment you knew she was the one for him.
5. The sincere bit. Say what the friendship means. Look at him while you say it.
6. The toast. "Please raise your glasses to Chris and Emma."

Jokes that land

• "Chris asked me to keep this toast clean and short. So, Emma, welcome to the family. Cheers. … I'm kidding, I have notes."
• "When Chris told me he'd met someone who liked hiking, camping and fantasy football, I said, 'Buddy, that's you. You've described yourself.'"
• "Emma, Chris is loyal, kind and deeply committed. Mostly to his grill, but you're a close second."

Rules worth keeping

• Never mention exes or anything the couple's bosses shouldn't hear.
• Don't drink much before you speak. Toast first, celebrate after.
• Speak to the whole room: grandparents, kids and coworkers included.

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Frequently asked questions

How long should a best man speech be?

Three to five minutes, about 400–650 words. Save longer stories for the rehearsal dinner.

Is the best man toast at the rehearsal dinner or the reception?

Traditionally the reception. Many best men also say a few words at the rehearsal dinner, which is more relaxed.

Who speaks first, best man or maid of honor?

It varies. Many couples have the maid of honor go first and the best man close; ask the couple or emcee.

Can I use a funny speech template?

Use it for structure, not lines. Guests can tell when jokes are borrowed; your own stories always land better.

Related guides

• Maid of honor speech: how to write it, with sample lines
• Rehearsal dinner toast: what to say and who gives one
• Father of the bride speech: structure and sample lines
• Mother of the bride speech: ideas, structure and examples