Mother of the bride speech: ideas, structure and examples
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How to write a mother of the bride speech or toast, whether you're speaking alone, as host, or alongside the father of the bride.
Your options
- Speak as host, welcoming guests at the reception.
- A joint toast with the bride's father or your partner, taking turns. Rehearse the handoffs.
- A rehearsal dinner toast, which suits a more personal, story-led speech.
Structure (3–5 minutes)
- Welcome, and thank the groom's family and anyone who helped.
- A memory of your daughter that shows who she is.
- What you've watched grow between the couple.
- A warm welcome to her spouse.
- A wish for their future and the toast.
Sample lines
- "I have been planning this day since Emma was born. She has been planning it since she was four, and as usual, her version won."
- "Chris, the first time you came for Thanksgiving you did the dishes without being asked. I decided then and there."
- "Being your mom has been the best job I've ever had, and I don't plan on retiring."
Tips
Coordinate with other speakers so you don't repeat stories. Keep notes in large type, and if you'd like a calm run-through, try our teleprompter and cue cards.
Frequently asked questions
Is it traditional for the mother of the bride to give a speech?
It's becoming much more common, especially as host or in a joint toast with the bride's father.
What should a mother of the bride not say?
Avoid embarrassing childhood stories she'd hate, past relationships, and anything about wedding-planning stress.
How long should it be?
Three to five minutes, around 400–650 words.
Can the mother of the groom speak too?
Yes, often at the rehearsal dinner, which the groom's family traditionally hosts.
Related guides
- Maid of honor speech: how to write it, with sample lines
- Best man speech: a structure that works, with examples
- Rehearsal dinner toast: what to say and who gives one
- Father of the bride speech: structure and sample lines
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