Groom speech: what to say and who to thank
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A short, heartfelt groom speech or thank-you toast for an American wedding: who to thank, what to say about your spouse and how to finish.
Do grooms give speeches in the US?
It's optional, but more couples now give a thank-you toast, either the groom alone or both of you together. It usually comes after the best man and maid of honor, or at the end of the rehearsal dinner.
Who to thank
- Guests, especially those who traveled.
- Both sets of parents, and anyone who helped pay or plan.
- The wedding party, by name if it's small.
- Vendors who went above and beyond (one line).
- Your spouse, last and longest.
What to say about your spouse
Skip "she's my best friend" unless you follow it with proof. Pick one moment: the night you knew, a small habit you love, the way they handled something hard. "Emma, you once drove three hours in a snowstorm because I'd said I was having a bad week. I knew then."
Sample closing
"So please raise your glasses one more time: to my wife, Emma, and to all of you for being here."
Tip: if you're giving a joint toast, split it clearly. One of you does thanks, the other does the story, and you toast together.
Frequently asked questions
Does the groom have to give a speech?
No. In the US it's optional, but a short thank-you is a nice touch.
How long should a groom speech be?
Two to four minutes.
Can the bride and groom give a speech together?
Yes, and it's increasingly popular. Agree who says what and rehearse once.
When does the groom speak?
Usually after the best man and maid of honor, or to close the rehearsal dinner.
Related guides
- Maid of honor speech: how to write it, with sample lines
- Best man speech: a structure that works, with examples
- Rehearsal dinner toast: what to say and who gives one
- Father of the bride speech: structure and sample lines
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